Sunday, 5 December 2021

A life well lived 

Daniel Furey, wisecrack, snazzy dresser, Paralympian and caring fundraiser died on Saturday 4 December 2021.

Uncle Danny was one of the most inspiring men I have had the pleasure of knowing and loving.

Danny will be missed not only by those who knew him, especially his wife Aunty Liz, but also by those whose lives are better because of his campaign and fundraising efforts.

A couple of years ago I interviewed Danny for a holiday accommodation resort which was adapted for persons of all abilities in the south of France. (First published on the Domaine Du Sourire Website, 2018).

Be inspired and finally, to honour Danny, write to your MP to work to improve services for persons with different abilities, or at the very least do an unexpected and unsolicited act of kindness for someone. ‘It’s not about doing the right thing; it’s about doing more

 Domaine du Sourire Blog interview 2018

I caught up with Danny Furey, retired Scottish Paralympian. Scottish born Danny competed and won a medal in the 1988 Seoul Olympics and was selected for the Barcelona Paralympics in 1992.   

 

Danny at the Seoul 1988 Olympics


Danny and his wife Liz, photo courtesy 0f Uphill Trust

Impressions on meeting this inspirational man are his wonderful sense of humour, indomitable Christian spirit and genuine humility. Danny has communication challenges, but this does not inhibit him being great company, his great-nephew Daniel said of him “he is the type of guy you could sit and listen to for hours! He has filled his life with so many adventures, the stories never run dry.  You cannot walk away untouched by this man whose smile is infectious and whose heart almost explodes with a care for others.


The infamous Danny smile, sightseeing after the Olympics at Seoul. photo courtesy of Disability Sports Fife

Danny told me he was born in June 1950 in Dundee, the youngest of three. Danny went on to say:

“I was born with Cerebral Palsy as a result of the rhesus syndrome which then was called the blue baby syndrome. I lived, some didn't. Some are physically impaired, whereas some have mental problems, and yet some have both. I lived at home for the first 5 years then it was suggested that I go to a special school in Edinburgh where I boarded until I was 16 years old getting home for the school holidays, it was tremendous strain on my family especially mum & dad.”

What drew you into wheelchair racing?

“I never thought of entering wheelchair athletics until I was 31/32.  I can't remember exactly what drew me to competitive racing because my first love was football in sports, which was out for me.  Although now they have wheelchair football and wheelchair rugby which, with my competitiveness, would have been a bit dangerous. Had these sports come earlier I might not have been here to tell the tale!”

As Danny has said he began competitive wheelchair racing in the early 1980’s, in the days before special racing chairs or Paralympic Games.

He raced for 10 years, becoming known as one of the world’s finest foot-pushing wheelchair racers of the time before being selected for the Seoul Olympics in 1988 and the Barcelona Paralympic Games in 1992.


Danny wearing his "tartan trews"

 Twenty-nine Scottish athletes were selected for the GB team for the Paralympic Games in 1988. Over four thousand competitors from sixty-one nations took part and for the first time Paralympians accessed the same stadia and were supported by the same officials as the Olympians of 1988. I asked Danny:

What did it feel like to be selected to represent your country at the Seoul Olympics?

“Depends on what you mean by country, I gained a lot from my Scotland selection but didn't fancy the British set up. It was an honour to be selected for GB, but the experience taught me from the organisation of the BPA it didn't really inspire unity among the different disability groups that were represented.” 

Richard Brickley MBE – President Disability Sport Fife told me “I was in Seoul in South Korea in 1988 with Danny. It was his finest hour and the last occasion when foot pushing wheelchair athletes competed at a Paralympic Games. Danny's greatest rivals were Danish, Irish and American. The great Dane, as he was known, was the world champion. Danny was the most likely athlete to defeat him over 200 metres. Danny pushed forward and the Great Dane pushed backwards. The result of the race is irrelevant but my memory of these two amazing athletes at full speed never deviating from their lanes will remain with me forever. The crowd in the packed stadium in Seoul were on their feet. One of the great moments in Para athletics.

In each direction travelling for team GB must have been a gruelling journey for athletes and support staff alike. I asked Danny:

Danny, how did you manage the challenges of travelling to a foreign country?

“Quite well, but there were some of us that suffered a lot of jet lag including me. My body clock was all over the place. I was waking up at 3am thinking it was time to get up and dressed, then having to reverse the whole process. That's just one of the issues I felt personally. Our wheelchairs and the stuff that we needed for training with came about two days after we arrived. I remember we were told not to eat anything like beef burgers because they might be cat or dog, and they told us if a policeman said stop, he would mean it by showing us his gun!”

What Danny hasn’t said is that for many of the team it was a demanding journey of moving and handling in the most confined of spaces. For all the team, Seoul was a steep learning curve. So, I asked Danny if he felt travelling had improved.

Do you think transport and services for people with disabilities has improved?

“Mainland Britain and Northern Ireland could do with some improvement particularly with public transport. It seems that public buildings are catching up, but some structures need access improvement even for some ambulant. I feel those with mental health issues and the visually impaired are most catered for but there is room for improvement here too.”

Danny does not believe in sitting back waiting for others to take action, either. In an unfortunate incident Danny got stuck in a church toilet in 2014. While struggling with his wheelchair he fell and got stuck, waiting 20 minutes before someone came to help.

He told Dundee’s Evening Telegraph in 2014, “I’ve never been one to sit around and wait for others to do things, so I decided to take the matter into my own hands.”

Staging a sponsored wheelchair run around Dundee, he raised more than £1,000 to hire an architect to draw up plans for new loos. Despite dreadful weather on the day - pouring rain with thunder and lightning – unwavering, Danny completed his wheelchair marathon. He said he was “determined to do it regardless.”

What would be the top thing you would like to see improved in services for disability?

“More training in the caring side and more awareness what caring for people with disabilities requires, not treating everyone with the same brush remembering that disability comes with many varied and different caring needs.”

Danny believes that it’s not just able-bodied people who need to work to improve services, he went on to say:

“Disabled people need to learn that sometimes things will still be out of reach and able-bodied people are not at their beck & call.”

What are your most prominent challenges and how do you overcome them?

“Accepting the way that I need more support, sometimes it seems as if everything is being stripped away but I guess that's goes for all people whether they're disabled or not. This is where my faith makes me able to cope, as a Christian I find strength in knowing that Jesus is always with me and no matter what comes up I find peace when I lean on Him. Many times, in the hurly burly of life I don't think that God hears me but in my heart of hearts I know that He's just a prayer away. Someday, I know that I will know what my life has been all about.”

Having begun fundraising for new loos for his church in 2014, Danny has gone on to raise funds for other charities, one being the Uphill Trust a small Scottish charity founded in January 2015 to support the development of Uphill Junior School, located in Uganda. I asked Danny,

I hear you still do some wheelchair racing, why is it important to you to do these charity races?

“Children. Especially children who don't have much of a chance in life. In places like Uganda they have less of a chance because their dreams have been shattered before they dream them.”

He went on to correct me,

 “I don't race any more I just do-little marathons around Dundee accompanied by my wife Liz who has started doing them as well.”

These “little marathons” are at least 10K!

completing a marathon! photo courtesy Uphill Trust



All done, still smiling after completing a 10K marathon. photo courtesy Uphill Trust




How fast is Danny going? Liz can't keep up,,, Photo courtesy Uphill Trust

What keeps you motivated?

“It’s nothing to do with doing the right thing, it’s more that more needs to happen.”

He continued:

“And knowing that no matter what comes up, no matter what's been taken away, I will always have Jesus. Friends mean a lot, but I'd better put your Auntie, who just happens to be my wife Elizabeth, and he continued, laughing, as he said “she bullies me continually (that's not true, - well not all the time!)”

Danny Furey, an amazing gentleman whose friendliness is evident to all who meet him; an outstanding sportsman and a legend in disability sport whose contribution to Dundee, Scotland and Great Britain is significant. It hasn’t stopped there, of course, his impact is reaching across the world to Uganda and elsewhere. Richard Brickley told me this little snippet, which sums up Uncle Danny so well (for he is my uncle!) so well “Danny will also be remembered as one of the first high performance Para athletes to compete in very fetching coloured tights. Now everybody does. A real trailblazer in so many ways.”

Thank you Danny for taking the time to let our readers have a little window into your life and to be inspired by you.

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Danny’s work here is done. He received the call from his Saviour with that one time offer he could not refuse. He will not be returning from that appointment, but it does have a huge benefits package, not just a reunion with family and friends he has not seen in a long time but a crown and commendation “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23)

 Amanda Mair

5 December 2021

Tuesday, 13 October 2020

The end of Love

 

The End of Love

 

Where did the feeling go?

Landed a hefty blow

Sharp pain

Flash of Light

Dark as night

Numb

 

Where did the feeling go?

Wedded bliss all aglow

Pummelled Love

Bruised Oppression

Dreams Undone

Numb

Thursday, 4 June 2020

#BlackLivesMatter


There is no escaping the current news concerning the protests about racial inequality or more specifically systemic racism sparked by the harrowing video of George Floyd, a black man being pinned to the ground by a white policeman which eventually led to his death.  #BlackLivesMatter is the trending hashtag.

I have read much on social media, the posts, the blogs, the comments especially from the Christian community – those who follow the Lord Jesus.


I am a white person, I do not suffer the racism I have seen and heard recently in that it does not impact upon my daily life as it is. 
Should I be silent? 
Does that mean I have no opinion? 
Does it mean I should not embroil myself in the ongoing situation? 
What can I do or what can I say?


I have no answers to some of those questions. 
I have no words.
I can offer nothing that will be adequate to comfort those who are suffering or words to quell the fears and anger of black men and women who do not have the privileges in life I have by virtue of where I was born.  
My opinion is just that -my opinion and no use to anyone. 

But what I do have is this, the words and comfort of the Lord Almighty.


This is what the Lord says to His people, to those who are oppressed, to those suffering racial inequality and systemic racism in their daily lives.  This is why I could not remain silent; why I will shout His words for they are mightier than any I have.


Micah 6:8

He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?

NB: Justice here includes privilege not only a formal decree

Proverbs 21:3

To do righteousness and justice is more desirable to the LORD than sacrifice.

Proverbs 31:9

Speak up, judge righteously, and defend the cause of the oppressed and needy

Jeremiah 22:3

This is what the LORD says: Administer justice and righteousness. Rescue the victim of robbery from the hand of his oppressor. Do no wrong or violence to the foreigner, the fatherless, or the widow. Do not shed innocent blood in this place.

Zechariah 7:9

"This is what the LORD of Hosts says: 'Administer true justice. Show loving devotion and compassion to one another.

Matthew 22:39 and Mark 12:31

Love your neighbour as yourself



The Lord cares, He is the answer, He is a refuge, He is your strength. He is your avenger.



Psalm 9:7-10 

But the LORD reigns forever, executing judgment from his throne. He will judge the world with justice and rule the nations with fairness. The LORD is a shelter for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. Those who know your name trust in you, for you, O LORD, do not abandon those who search for you.

Psalm 103:5-6 

Who satisfieth thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle’s. The LORD executeth righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.

1 Peter 5:7

 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Isaiah 41:10

 Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

Psalm 145:18

The LORD is close to all who call on him, yes, to all who call on him in truth.

Psalm 34:18

The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

Psalm 62:8

Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us.



I have heard the cry from some that we should not say #BlackLivesMatter because #AllLivesMatter. It is true that ALL lives matter, it is true that we were created equally before God, it is true that God does not treat us more or less favourably based on colour or culture. God does see colour, He created us that way. 
Sadly mankind created bias and discrimination. We live in a fallen world, sin exists, hate exists, racism exists, oppression exists. 
Call it out! Use your privilege to change things for those who are oppressed. “Speak up” for truth and righteousness. In this instance the systemic racism that exists in many places against our brothers and sister who are black. I must act and speak against racism at every turn becasue the Lord demands it of me. What I can do I have not yet worked out, but do something I must. Now is not the time to be silent and ignore this hoping it will go away soon.
#BlackLivesMatter



Amanda Mair

Wednesday, 1 January 2020

Somewhere

Sometimes in the midst of a situation leaving seems impossible for whatever reasons. There is no judgement here. But most of all stay safe!

Peace can be found in dreams
A world of fancy delusion
A sanctum of seclusion
Escape there from the screams
Away from
Love that turned sour
Eyes that glower
Mouth that venom spits


Lips that deceive with a kiss. 
Serenity in a corner of my mind
A world I can create
Love is there not hate
A place to be tender, kind
Away from
Love that oppresses
A mind that possesses
Teeth that flesh, tear and gash
Hands that bones, break and smash.

Solitude in the hearts recess
Fantasy is the key
To this sanctuary
This ethereal wonderland of peace
For now
This is it
This is my quiet place
This is where I can be who I am

One day this will be my reality.



There is help out there, please take that step. YOU are WORTH it. 

Amanda Mair

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Who was that man?


A few years ago working in the city centre of Belfast I often passed a homeless person sleeping in a doorway. It prompted to me write this poem.


Who was that man I passed today?
Slumped in an abandoned doorway
Alone, unkempt, dirty even.
Alcohol, urine, blood and death reeked to heaven.
Who was that man I passed today?
A down and out or tramp?
A drunk, a loser, a bum?

Was he that father who once played football in the park with his kids?
Or pushed them on the swings?
Did he wipe their tears and runny noses, read them adventure stories?

Was he that husband who once brought home on Fridays red roses for his wife?

Or curled up on the sofa and stroked her soft hair?
Did they talk of their great plans for the future , whisper sweet nothings?

Was he that son a mother once was so proud of on the day he was born?
Or bounced him on her knee and curled him into her breast?
Tucked him in at night, planted butterfly kisses on his ruddy cheek, sang sweet lullabies?

Who was that man I passed today?
Slumped in an abandoned doorway
Alone, unkempt dirty even.
Alcohol, urine, blood and death reeked to heaven.
Who was that man I passed today?
A lover a husband, a father?
A friend, a brother, a son?



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Amanda Mair







Saturday, 11 August 2018

Menopausal Mondays Series No. 4 - Ouch, I'm all pins and needles.....

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What is the most annoying thing about menopause for you so far?

For me it is the tingling and aching joints.

Ok I have not experienced much of a hot flush or flash yet, I guess that might be annoying. Well actually come to think on it, all of it is more than annoying, but today as I write this it’s the tingling and joint pain that is giving me greatest discomfort.

This symptom was one of the first that I felt although I didn’t associate it with menopause for a long time. This week it just seems to be constant and night time is when it strikes most.

I can’t sit it is so uncomfortable. I can’t move around much it is too painful and sleep is so out of the question.


Even my hands and fingers are tingling and sore as I write this, but I am determined I need to keep on. I feel as if there has been 40 years added to my life overnight!

Although not the most common symptom of menopause or perimenopause tingling is very bothersome, sore and unpleasant.  It mostly affects feet, legs, arms and hands but can affect any part of the body. I feel it mostly in my legs and more recently it seems to affect my hands and forearms.

Apparently, and I am sure this sounds very familiar, it is down to hormone fluctuations! A decline in oestrogen, a hormone that has a complex effect on the central nervous system, blood circulation, and the health of the skin can lead to thinner skin and misdirected signals from the nervous system sometimes causing these episodes of tingling and aching joints.

Medically the tingling, we may know as pins and needles, is called PARASTHESIA. Another symptom some women, including myself, experience is the sensation of creepie-crawlies on the skin and this amazingly has a medical term, it is called FORMICATION. It feels as if there is a creepie- crawlie or insect crawling on your skin but, in fact, there is nothing there. When I first started sensing this, I, being the drama queen as ever, began to be reminded of Sigourney Weaver in Alien!


While for most women during this season of life menopause is most likely to be the cause of such symptoms however don’t rule out other causes and it is always worthwhile checking with the doctor particularly if you experience other symptoms alongside such as paralysis, loss of bladder/bowel control, loss of feeling on one side, and vision changes. These are not exclusive and if you experience unexplained symptoms along with the tingling it is wise to make that visit to your GP.

In most cases a good balanced diet, drinking plenty of water, adequate rest and of course the all-important exercise are the most effective ways to manage menopause.




 














However don’t rule out some alternative treatments such as ginseng, turmeric or another additional vitamin supplement.


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Photo:amanda'sdivinelywovenwords
Physical wellbeing cannot be understated during menopause, but our spiritual wellbeing should not be neglected as it will undoubtedly bring the greatest strength and comfort throughout the menopause. We began this series by remembering that we, yes us women, are created in the image of God. That is a big WOW and the basis from which to begin maintaining our spiritual wellbeing. Despite the discomfort we may feel and very probably, if you are like me, the inability to kneel for a period of time and then rise is virtually impossible! Yet despite this it is important to focus on our faith, to spend time before God in prayer and reflection on scripture.

I hadn’t planned this at the start of this post but having reached the end I feel led to give myself a challenge to read a verse a day over the next month and post it in this blog with my thoughts - if I have any, join me if you wish by posting your verse and thoughts in the comments.

I really feel God is telling me to look at my attitude in this season of life, to entrench the truth that I am made in His image – ME – yes me-  and even in this mixed up confusing and painful time He has a purpose for me.

Menopause does not mean pause life and God but rather it may be a time to pause and reflect upon my Creator and Saviour, the giver of life and purpose.

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